Friday, November 28, 2014

'Tis the Season to Be...Addicted to Porn?





'Tis the season to be...addicted to porn?


Oh, how many kids or teens have been asking parents for months if at Christmas time they could get a smartphone or iPad.  And how many parents will consent to this; either because you believe your kid is of age to where they could handle having the internet available anytime and anywhere (note the sarcasm) or because they have earned it through bringing home a good report card with grades that are pleasing in your sight and make you proud as a parent.  Or maybe you as a parent are willing to purchase a smartphone for your kid(s) because you just want them off your back already or you are tired of them using yours when you're out.


Parents, I humbly plead with you to read a few posts I have written in the past here on my blog regarding raising kids wisely in this internet generation and how crucial it is to protect them from the dangers of the internet that are so easily accessible through having internet on their phones or on their computer or laptop which they keep in their rooms.  Read Parenting the Internet Generation, Does Your Teen Own a Smartphone?, Protecting and Guarding the Hearts of Children, Parents Who Make an Impact, Talking to Your Kids About Sex, and Do We Want Our Children to be Holy or Happy?


Pornography might not be an issue you are familiar with.  You may assume those who view porn are dirty old men or teenage boys in the midst of puberty who happen to bring Play Boy magazine to school and all indulge in this when no one's around.  Yet it is important to know that we live in a time and age where pornography can be accessed from nearly any device (computer, laptop, smartphone, tablet, gaming system, Smart TV, etc.) and can be found by misspelling just one word or purposely looking for it through a number of keywords.  Pornography is a horrible evil in today's world and what is available to see in the different genres of porn would highly disturb you if you were fully aware of them.  Please check out all the posts I have written regarding pornography & masturbation and share them with anyone you know who might already be dealing with these sins.


My mom has said many times before that kids and teens are young and don't know how to make proper decisions because they are lacking experience and knowledge of where the choices they are making today will lead them tomorrow and how what they choose to watch, read, and listen to (apart from your awareness) will play a negative role and have a destroying impact on their future and relationships (and self esteem, etc.) in many ways as their future unfolds one day at a time.  Blindly giving your kids a device where the internet can be accessed anytime and anywhere is truly throwing your precious children to the wolves of lust, pride, addiction, a warped view of others, a distorted view of sexuality, a twisted view of what is attractive, and the list goes on and on.


I beg of you and exhort you to take the time to read about different apps and computer programs or web sites your children may very well run to or even accidentally find if they had easily accessible internet.  The web site/ministry I am referring to is called iParent.TV and was started by the founder of XXXChurch which is the largest web site dealing with sexual addiction from a Biblical perspective.  Covenant Eyes is an excellent resource for learning about the dangers of the internet and gaining info and wisdom over how porn use (even sporadically viewed) can affect a person's well-being, outlook, attractions, and even their brain.  With all of this said, I would encourage you to sign up for the Covenant Eyes filtering service which blocks impure entertainment and pornographic material from being accessed.  You can also choose to get accountability reports of all the web sites your family visits on the internet.  This will show you what they are up to and the sort of material or interests they are searching for on the internet; exposing if their motives and longings are clean or if they merit confrontation and serious discussion with you over such desire.  The filtering service costs between ten and twelve dollars per month, or about fourteen for a family plan.  If you would like to get the first month free, you may sign up using my affiliate code here.


Pornography isn't something to mess around with.  Please take (or make) the time to really study this issue and the dangers of unfiltered internet before even considering buying a device for your precious family where the filth and horrors of what can be seen in porn or countless web sites out there could be accessed at the mere click of a button or misspelling of a word (or curiosity).


Parents, what has been your strategy up until this point to protect your kids from impurity, wasted time, and bad decisions?  Do you have an on-going conversation with your kids about sex and the importance of guarding their hearts or have you been stagnant and lacking diligence in training/discipling with the hopes that your kid won't do anything they shouldn't?  Make sure to read the 2014 Holiday Buyer's Guide for Internet Safety by Covenant Eyes.


As being an older sister to my teenage brother has taught me, both guys and girls need parents (or mentors, Youth Pastors, counselors, etc.) there for them on a daily basis for support, guidance, counsel, accountability, and a listening ear.  They need to be taught and reminded of these things each day.  Whether you deal with youth or children through work, school, or being a parent yourself, or you know of children or teens in need of a trustworthy and godly mentor, example, and friend, I challenge you to please reach out to the youth in your life and seek to make a difference.


It will be time well spent and is so needed yet under delivered.  Invest in the lives of youth you know and teach them.  Share the resources and web sites with them listed above in this blog post and then continue the conversation on a daily basis.

Be a difference maker!


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