Thursday, November 6, 2014


It's fascinating how many of us wrestle with having a low self esteem.  We choose to cope through all different means, yet somehow always end up falling short to the standards we wish to one day attain.

In our world of airbrushed images, plastic surgery, eating disorders, fancy cars, homes filled with costly trinkets, makeup, the latest diet trends, etc. it's no wonder how we appear outwardly is often on our minds!  The issue of appearance has become such a point of concentration in our culture that we tread the depths of depression when upon looking in the mirror, we do not match up with Hollywood's impossible standards for beauty.

My mom and I recently went on a drive.  We stopped at a natural juice shop that sells organic, dairy-free cookies and fruit smoothies.  As we watched people walk by, my mom said people really are like cars; shiny and pretty on the outside, while rusting and in need of repair on the inside.  She went on to say that in today's world, everyone wants to act like they have it all-together and no one is real with each other about the deep issues, pains, or bad habits that seem to be on repeat in their day-to-day lives.

Isn't that so true?  How many of us give the reply, "I'm good, thanks" when someone at a store or restaurant asks how we're doing?  We never say, "I'm really lonely and addicted to porn" or "I turn to cutting whenever something overwhelming or depressing goes on" or "I have a low self esteem and don't have many friends."  ...the list goes on.  Now, of course we must have discernment when speaking to people or being honest about our temptations and stresses (not everyone who will listen is trustworthy and might be a gossip or immature, just waiting to tell someone else), but have you ever stopped to ponder how rare it is when we are honest about how our day is going with other people?  Have you ever just wanted to cringe at the sound of someone saying almost mechanically, "I'm fine" when asked how they're doing?


Other people might be longing for you to make the first move, so to speak, in letting them know aspects of your life that you need help with or have overcome and can now help others going through something similar.

I challenge you to reach out to people at work, school, or at the store/restaurant.  Ask them sincerely how their life is going and offer a listening ear if they say they are in need of a friend.  (If it's something you can't handle on your own, direct them to a Bible-believing church where they can seek Biblical Counsel with people who are trained to help with specific issues and can point them to resources that will benefit them with whatever struggles and problems they are facing).

So many people like the idea of everyone getting along, yet no one seems to be willing to take the first step in being a true friend.

A few questions to ponder:

  • What makes you feel acknowledged by and important to another person?
  • How would you define a genuine friend?
  • What means the most to you: a good listener or one who gives great advice?
  • What character qualities do you admire in others?
  • Are you willing to meet new friends or offer a hand of friendship in sincerity to those around you?

...You never know how it will make their day!

If you need someone to talk to; a friend, mentor, listening ear, or support, please write to me and I will gladly correspond with you through letters.  You may write at:


Ariëlla said...

Thank you. I will think about this things longer ...

Emma Joy said...

You are very welcome. I'm glad it gave you something to ponder!

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